Then the relief and the buzz of the post ceremony drinks as you chat with the loved ones you have chosen to be at your ceremony. Ours was a very small wedding with around 20 family members and one or two close friends and it was nice to see a group of people, all together, who otherwise wouldn’t have the chance. The whole day was like this – you have some nerves, then the euphoria and adrenaline, then the relief and happiness – and on it goes! I think that’s what makes it such a strange day – so many enjoyable feelings crammed into a short period of time. As I say, it’s very unique and I felt sad when it was over. 

I know I’ve mentioned it, but that’s something I seriously never thought I’d say! Now, when I’m providing my Acoustic Wedding Singer and DJ services for an all day wedding event, I always make sure to mention to the groom (I always see the grooms first as they’re milling around nervously before the ceremony, when I will play the bride down the aisle and they see her for the first time), to savour it all because it goes by so quickly. 

   The other day, I was playing an all day affair in the Lake District and I had got myself ready for the guests to start coming in as I played to them as they were seated, and the groom, Gareth, came in to check things out as I was playing and started to well up. He said, ‘I’m welling up already, mate.’ And seemed to be trying to hold it in. So I told him to embrace it all and gave him a few heartfelt words about how quickly it passes by and how he’ll wish he could do it all again; he seemed genuinely thankful.

So, that’s a new experience I can draw on. Before, I was very experienced at playing music at a thousand weddings, and was very proficient in the logistics of a wedding, but I had no idea of the rollercoaster you go on during your own wedding and the feelings you may have during and after. Before I was married myself I would’ve just’ve answered Gareth’s comment with a little chuckle, but now I have the experience of my own wedding I was hopefully able to add something for Gareth that I wouldn’t have known before. So being married has actually made me better at my job as a wedding singer! Perfect.